Post by darkladytiamat on Jan 20, 2009 2:46:47 GMT -5
VERBAL JUDO OR SPARRING
Verbal judo is a form of tactical communication. This comes from tactfully arguing or debating with an opponent. Many times when engaged in a debate you must use the words of your opponent by twisting them to a fashion that suits your needs. It is the gentle art of persuasion that redirects the others behaviors with words and generates voluntary compliance.
There are several rules that one must impliment when using this form of communication.
1) Perform professionally
2) What to say and what not to say
3) Control your biases
4) Verbal abuse
5) Words and Meanings.
Perform Professionally
In this aspect one must uphold a professional aire about themselves not only in the inflection of words but actions as well. When one speaks with an educated structure, it gains the thought process from those that are listening to this debate that you know what you are talking about. It also opens up avenues of advantages to be used later on in the debate. A professional who is comfortable with what he/she is saying is calm, cool, collective, and able to resource what he/she is saying at a drop of a dime. However if they are not comfortable, they fall and stammer and lose their train of thought rather quickly and then try to use what the other is saying to gain ground. But by this point they have lost.
What to say and what not to say
There are many words that one could use. For instance your opponent says "The war should have gone this way." A person that is versed in Verbal Judo would reply as such "The war has gone this way, and this what we need to do to change it or end it." They give points of how to adapt or change the situation of that war. Politicians use this form all the time. They know what to say and what not to say.
Words that you should not say are "should, would, could have, could, been and lets see." These words give the condentation that you really have no clue to what you are talking about. Thus you have just lost this fight as well.
Control your biases
It would be fair to say to all of us have home grown biases - buttons that can be pushed. It is crucial that we learn how to control them, for if you cannot control yourself, you cannot control others.
Verbal Abuse
By far the most common abuse we face - to stay calm and professional under pressure you must not get drawn into words people throw at you, whether it be sarcasm or obscene language, at work or in the home. With verbal judo you are able to control this aspect without it becoming a button to be used by your opponent.
Words and Meanings
Words and Meanings are almost never the same. This again could almost fall into the Biases section of verbal judo. But to be good at this one uses words that they are affluent in by both meanings and actions accorded by the words.
Verbal judo is a form of tactical communication. This comes from tactfully arguing or debating with an opponent. Many times when engaged in a debate you must use the words of your opponent by twisting them to a fashion that suits your needs. It is the gentle art of persuasion that redirects the others behaviors with words and generates voluntary compliance.
There are several rules that one must impliment when using this form of communication.
1) Perform professionally
2) What to say and what not to say
3) Control your biases
4) Verbal abuse
5) Words and Meanings.
Perform Professionally
In this aspect one must uphold a professional aire about themselves not only in the inflection of words but actions as well. When one speaks with an educated structure, it gains the thought process from those that are listening to this debate that you know what you are talking about. It also opens up avenues of advantages to be used later on in the debate. A professional who is comfortable with what he/she is saying is calm, cool, collective, and able to resource what he/she is saying at a drop of a dime. However if they are not comfortable, they fall and stammer and lose their train of thought rather quickly and then try to use what the other is saying to gain ground. But by this point they have lost.
What to say and what not to say
There are many words that one could use. For instance your opponent says "The war should have gone this way." A person that is versed in Verbal Judo would reply as such "The war has gone this way, and this what we need to do to change it or end it." They give points of how to adapt or change the situation of that war. Politicians use this form all the time. They know what to say and what not to say.
Words that you should not say are "should, would, could have, could, been and lets see." These words give the condentation that you really have no clue to what you are talking about. Thus you have just lost this fight as well.
Control your biases
It would be fair to say to all of us have home grown biases - buttons that can be pushed. It is crucial that we learn how to control them, for if you cannot control yourself, you cannot control others.
Verbal Abuse
By far the most common abuse we face - to stay calm and professional under pressure you must not get drawn into words people throw at you, whether it be sarcasm or obscene language, at work or in the home. With verbal judo you are able to control this aspect without it becoming a button to be used by your opponent.
Words and Meanings
Words and Meanings are almost never the same. This again could almost fall into the Biases section of verbal judo. But to be good at this one uses words that they are affluent in by both meanings and actions accorded by the words.